Confidence! Do You Have It?

All the books say, “You have to believe in yourself and have confidence to be beautiful.” Then the advertisers tell you, “Do you have underarm odor? Wrinkles? Are your clothes stained? Are you overweight?” It’s hard to truly have confidence in ourselves in a modern world and the terrible statistics on anorexia prove that. How much money is spent every year on painful invasive procedures to “tweak” how a face looks? You have a line across your forehead? There’s a botox injection so you won’t move your face when you worry, followed by a dermal filler injection to make that one line go away. All because we look in the mirror and don’t feel confident.

Change that outlook today. First, if confidence looks beautiful and you don’t feel confident, use simple life changes to at least look confident. Studies show if you look strong and confident you will begin to feel strong and confident. Shoulders back, arms loose, relaxed smile and alert expression. Engage with the people who walk past you. A smile, a nod, or just a look. Don’t hide, don’t try to avoid eye contact and don’t let your posture slump.

No one walking by knows whether you are a scared wall-flower or a take-charge person with a mission in life. They see what you choose to project and you can choose anything you want. But I can hear you saying, “I have some real problems with how I look. How does straightening my posture and holding my head up cure my acne?” It doesn’t of course. But there are treatments for that and simple skin creams that will help with crow’s feet, acne, discolorations.

The key is simple: Use things that help and then let it go. You have dark circles under your eyes? Use an under-eye cream formulated to minimize the shadows and gently firm the delicate skin under your eyes. Then put on your makeup and put that issue out of your mind. It isn’t that having what you perceive as a flaw is holding you back. We all have flaws. It’s obsessing about it, giving it greater importance than it deserves, and allowing it to affect decisions you make. Whatever the “flaw” is, find a solution, trust the solution, and wash it out of your thinking pattern. Are you worried about the lines around your mouth or on your forehead? Use a good moisturizer with peptides like Peptide6 on them every day. The rest of the day do not give them a thought.

Shoulders back, head up, smile. It really does make a difference!